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FYI,

I don't want anyone to think I don't understand how serious cutting is when it's a true addiction. As I understand, it's how Bob describes as a way to cope with emotional pain. And adolescent suicide is a very real and horrible problem. A boy at my daughter's school killed himself just before Christmas last year, and it was devastating. I also know couselors have no choice but to assume that any mention of the word "suicide" has to be taken seriously - and with good reason. It just makes me SO angry when these girls lie about serious problems like this (and trust me, I see it ALL the time) when there is true suffering out there. It's like the women that claim to be raped when it's not true - they do a great disservice to the real victims.

This cutting is very distressing to see, quite horrific . Although my daughter is still in hospital this is one of the things she did and has more or less stopped .But i feel it'll recur from time to time .
In kids it's a sign of deep disturbance and alas it does also have the elements of social fad peer group aprouval seeking too . Either /or and both .
Apparently it produces huge releases of endorphines and there's the common hallmark of addictions .
If anyone needs info see this :
http://www.wikihow.com/Stop-Cutting-Yourself

After rereading my post, I made it sound as if younger ones do not ever have the pain that adults do. That was not my intent and I apologize for that.

There are definitely younger ones that have real problems the same or worse than us adults. However, you must admit that there is a certain segment of younger ones, be it large or small (I don't know), that do it to conform with their peers. The younger a person, the more likely this is to occur. The older one becomes, such as someone over 40 or 50 or 60, the less likely they are going to perform this type of behavior, although I suspect that it never truly goes to zero percent.

I personally have revealed a lot of disturbing facts about myself in order to help others. People here know I am a drunk. People here know that I am addicted to the benzodiazepine, Valium. People here know that I have attempted suicide four times. People here now know I used to cut myself to stop the real psychological pain. I also remember peer pressure when I was young.

I trust I have made it clear that I both understand and I care.

Bob

PS I will not be discussing this subject any longer. It's too painful for me to remember those days of cutting.

DON'T BERATE YOURSELF!

We've all done that. The HARDEST thing I've had to learn (as a co-dependent....you know there's not much difference from alcoholism)...is that DO NOT dwell on what you did or did not do yesterday...but start today with a clean slate. Also...don't allow yourself to think about what you might or might not do tomorrow...it's not here yet.

Bob, I would personally like to thank you for opening up and being as brave as you have been letting us know all the facts about yourself in order to enlighten and help us all. I think you are doing a wonderful job with all of this. When I see you have posted I can't wait to read what you have said. I always know it will resonate with me.

Celate your post is definitely a good reminder to those of use who have been a bit down lately. A reminder to put one foot in front of the other and move on! Better days are ahead.

I don't want to talk about it either , it's painful to me too .
But , I will say this when Bob said what he did , somewhere in me it struck a curious
chord .
So I'm a drunk and must be most perverse as well , but it's true all the same .