I'm sad to say I have NO support system. My DH does not see that I have a problem at all. He drinks more than is really good for him but does not perceive a problem there either. All my neighbours and family are drinkers who are not interested in quitting even tho some of them have real problems with alcohol, so no support there.

In my fantasy world all my family and friends are with me - telling me not to forget my pill, keeping track with me, joking about the process and having fun with me through TSM - and maybe doing a buddy thing....but in real life I'm on my own. That's why this board is SO IMPORTANT.

I don't know how you and your husband are tackling this thing. Are you able to discuss this freely with him? Some men are pretty closed about problems. If he's like that you may have to be his silent partner. I know my loved one, who I am encouraging albeit long distance, does NOT want to discuss this with me at all. I send him e-mails, and copy many posts from here for him. So he's on his own too in a way - the stoic type...

So to answer your question, you know your DH and we don't. Just be patient and kind and if he wants to talk let him. If he doesn't want to talk it will be more difficult for you but you can just be there for him (keep a naltrexone handy too!!)

Don't feel too bad, I am working this alone also, except for you guys, I have no one to talk to about it. Most people don't want to hear anothers problems. Sometimes they're too wrapped up in thier own. I'm just plugging along, taking the pill when needed & coming here for support. Sad to think that I can't speak to my "friends" about this even tho there are quite a few who could benefit from this program, I know they wouldn't listen. Tomorrow we are going out with another couple for dinner, but the wife has to make the dinner date for 3 in the afternoon because by 5 the husband is squashed. He would not want to do tsm. I can't help him. I think he realy really likes being drunk 24/7.WTF?? Anyway I appreciate all of you & keep your chin up sweetheart. We're here for you.

from WorriedWife
Not a living soul knows what I am doing with TSM other than those on this board. I don't want anything in my medical records so I can't discuss it with my physician and I have a lot to lose personally and professionally if I were ever suspected of having a drinking problem or received treatment for alcoholism. So I'm going it alone with the help and reassurance of the wonderful folks on this board of course.

Well, I guess we really do have to support each other!!

I want to start the celebration of the birth of the Christ Child with a new outlook:

First, if I've been critical of, or have lacked understand and emphathy for, others here I'm truly sorry. Often my enthusiasm and general big mouth-iness gets the better of me.

Second, I truly thank each and every one of you who has been supportive of ME over the past year, and I pledge to support YOU this coming year.

So anyone out there who is doing this alone, please keep reading, and let us know when you feel down, or discouraged, and we'll be here.