I have to admit I laughed too. Guinness cans everywhere LOL. But you know it's ok to laugh when your friend trips and falls on the sidewalk like a goof so long as you check and make sure they are ok first. Then it's laugh on

Recycling was always my job, I made it my job. But I had secret collections around the house and when I lived on a 100 acre farm would just toss the cans and bottles in an old abandoned broken down barn or along the treeline.

Way we go Maggie. Great job last week. A little late but I have been not been on much this week. I agree with your attitude of not worrying about an uptick after a great week like last week. It is just great to have such a week and know that we can actually live and breath with only 9 drinks in a week! I would have never believed it before

I think I would have ended up with a Guinness can fence Ocean !!

Thanks Reboot - and yes this week has gone up again and I have not had an AF day yet - but am having 3-4 drinks each day - pouring out most of the 4th ! What I am having a problem with this week - is my husband ! He drinks - but has always been able to stop for a few weeks then gets right back into it as we all know because of the Alcohol Deprivation Effect. Anyway since I got back from UK, he has been drinking so much each night that he is staggering and slurring - I hate it !! I never used to get drunk - and hate when he gets like that as he gets all maudlin ! I finally said something - told him that I didn't want to be a hypocrite as we both drink BUT he needs to cut back! He drinks brandy so I hate to think what his liver is like. I know only he can do something about it - he would NEVER do TSM - he is a man that never goes to the doc, and does things on his own - he 'doesn't need help for anything' type of thing - I know there is nothing I can do, so am probably just venting - thanks for listening my friends.

Hugs, Maggie x

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Thanks Jaba - yes, these days he hates when I leave him - he used to be fine with it but as he gets older he hates it more and more for some reason. I will try and bring it up when we are doing something else - he really needs to cut back - obviously I have no problem with him drinking - even when I am AF I have no problem with him or anyone else drinking around me for some reason - but really hate when they are DRUNK ! Mainly because he gets so maudlin - reminds me of my dad when he used to drink !

Hugs, Maggie x

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It has always been like that Jaba - it has never bothered me others drinking when I have been sober. I was sober for 8 months with Topamax and hubs was drinking then - I was fine with it. I think it might be because he does not drink Guinness ..... LOL

Hugs, Maggie x

I was always fine with others drinking when I was sober too. My wife drinks every night but she can also stop when ever she wants too. One glass of wine is no bother for her though she did confide in me recently that she wants to cut back and that is in my mind always a sign of something. I don't know what but something. She would always ask me when I was having a dry week or two if it was okay if she had a drink. It kind of bothered me that she would ask actually because it's her life and her decision and I don't want my problems with alcohol to exert any control over her. It didn't bother me but I think on more then one occasion I probably would see her drink or just see a bottle of open wine and make up an excuse to drink.

The thing that really did bother me was when she would have a drink and ask me if I wanted one. My reply was of course no because it would lead to black out in a couple of hours and then she would say something like oh common just one sip it's real good. And I know she would do it because she just generally wanted to share and it was a nice gesture really. I hid my alcoholism from her well so she just never really understood what it meant when I said if I have one drink it makes me feel like having another, no actually if I have one drink then within a few hours I'll have had 15.

Interestingly now that I have not been drunk in 5 months I observe her behavior and notice a difference even after a couple glasses of wine. I never noticed it much before because I was always drunk or sober but plotting my next move to drink.

The trouble is Ocean, is that hubs drinks way more than me - and gets drunk which I hate ! And yes I suppose now that I am not getting at all inebriated, I am noticing it even more than I did - I just cannot stand when he gets all maudlin on me ! We are going to have to have a talk about it today ....... SIGH !!!

Hugs, Maggie x

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